Reading yours I felt like we are on same boat as it is very hurtful and painful to lose our loved ones. Online concert to feature an exclusive performance by the Komitas Quartet, ARF of Boston to host panel discussion, Human Rights Concerns Facing Armenia and Artsakh Today, ANCA mobilizing grassroots pro-Armenian activism across the US, Armenian Genealogy Conference announces new speakers, When your back is against the wall, protect your dignity, The Armenian Bar Association calls for due process and respect for rule of law in Armenia, Armenian Community Center of Greater Detroit donates Armenian Genocide books to Novi Public Library. Walter was always testing boundaries, exploring the limits--which was excellent, because then I knew exactly where they were and I made sure I didn't break the rules. Thank you for sharing. I call you," My everything". He played beautifully, our grandmother MeeMaw, who doubled as our piano teacher, always said. Nope. Except Walter took that to mean he must live on the edge of a lake. Proverbs 10:7 says the memory of a good person is a blessing. I will hold onto that forever. For since we believe that Jesus died and rose again, even so, through Jesus, God will bring with him those who have fallen asleep.. It is not welcome and will never be welcome because of this space, emptiness and thoughts you have left with us. Juan, brother, it is very hard to say goodbye so we will just say so-long. Sleep on Sir, good night Sir - adieu Peter and find peace with God even as you sleep. I appreciate everything the Varadian family has done for me and my family throughout my life. Throughout the years, Mesrob Srpazan tested Markar and placed numerous hurdles in front of him (too numerous to mention); however, like a true Providence AYF Olympic Athlete, Markar jumped over all of those hurdles and won the race. I remember when I showed you my passport with a visa, you asked me if somebody has given me money, I said no, it is only you who gives me money. function callPin(permalink) { Lessons we learnt from you, advice we got from you, we promise to keep. Phone ringing, mum crying. Wow I can't believe my Uncle is really gone. He lived a principled life underpinned by a strong sense of right and wrong. Your email address will not be published. He said to Markar, I appreciate your candidacy to the priesthood and admire your dedication; however, I cannot picture you as a priest. I still remember your word of advice to me of always being responsible in all aspects of my life. My brother embraced the Hawaiian culture and the Hawaiians embraced my brother as one of their own, thus the nickname Bruddah. When asked about my brother Walter, I used to describe him by saying, "Children and dogs love him.". He loved everything about Hawaii, the place, the atmosphere, the air. Pauline was Markars faithful and devoted wife; and God gave them the pleasure and responsibility of raising three beautiful children: Scott, Susan, and Mgo. As the years progressed, so did their love for one another. Walter was a wonderful stepfather to two children, E. and L. And a great friend to his children's friends, his friends' children, anyone who shared his Peter Pan-like love of childish things. OMG, this was like it was written for my brother. It is harder than I ever thought life could be without you. I was not sure if writing a very personal eulogy was a proper way for me to do the eulogy for my beloved brother who I've lost unexpectedly and at a young age. Once again, God anointed his head with oil and abundantly blessed his life, and his cup runneth over., Like a true and faithful servant of the Lord, Der Vartan lived his life according to the Golden Rule: Love the Lord your God with all your heart, soul, and mind; and Love your neighbor as you love yourself. Way. He even survived a bad marriage, to his first wife whose name escapes me. The Italian Riviera, including Lerici and Cinque Terre. Once again, God anointed his head with oil and abundantly blessed his life, and his cup runneth over.. In 17 short years, Der Vartan accomplished more than some priests accomplish in 40 or 50 years of service. Some photos taken in East Anglia, including Cambridge, Ely, and Thetford, home of Thomas Paine. I learned early on that my larger-than-life brother was invincible. One of my earliest memories is on the front porch at our house on Poplar Street. Gardens at Grey's Court, including the wisteria pergola. I want you back in my life. If we were without hope, we might mourn; if we were without faith, we might despair; however, the very essence of our centuries-old Christian faith is hope. I know that if he had been given a chance, he would have become a dedicated athlete. In the coming days, weeks, months, and years, he met with me on several occasions to express his sorrow and disappointment. First thing I thought "who is going to tell his son?". Thanks very much. Qw%|/s4^|{*>y)nz6 You affected people of all ages, you contributed in changing lives, you shared experiences and to me, you were an experience. The blow was hard and the shock was severe. Our Christian faith teaches us that death is only a temporary separation, and one day, we will all be together again for all eternity. The only way to console is to Remember the Lord, who gives the strength to bear all the odds of life. Well mourn the man whos gone, whom we lost so tragically, but well remember him, and remember that above all, he would want us to remember him as he lived, on the edge of a lake and on the fearless edge of what was possible. Today and always, let us be mindful that we are not saying goodbye to our beloved Der Vartan, but we are saying farewell, pari janabar, until we meet again in Gods Eternal Heavenly Kingdom. I've had a hard time putting the words together for my brother's eulogy but point by point you've nailed it and now I can begin to write about my brother who has departed. You are gone now but you will always be remembered. Despite the tragic loss of his father, God blessed Markar with two beautiful uncles, Peter Postoian and Thomas Postoian. Papa, Brother, Daddy I have always called you. caleb groomsmen carrera If you want to Create Free Memorial Website, please. He was a kind and gentle spirit. You've inspired me to find the words that I want to write for my brother. by Benito L. Ornleas Der Vartan loved Psalm 23 and would often recite this Psalm to console a family and help them cope with the loss of a loved one. My brother died and I want to Eulogize him because he was a wonder Brother. Today, though we stand in the valley of the shadow of death, we stand in the light of the greatest hope the world has ever known: the hope of the glorious resurrection of our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ. Memories are what we hold very firm to us. He encouraged me to sing and believed in my abilities and always said I would make it. Now I realize that my 35 year friendship with Markar was not just a coincidence, but it was one of Gods great blessings, with a divine meaning and purpose. As we all know, Der Vartan had a great sense of humor and during his visitations, he made everyone laugh. Thank you for being my brother. I could not comprehend the idea of life-threatening cancer and my big strong brother in the same sentence. He was my passport to all the places I never would have dreamed of going, and I met people I could only read or hear about. Thank you. During the Wake and Funeral Services, and the days and weeks thereafter, many of us said: Der Vartans sad and untimely death was a tragedy. However, just think, if Der Vartan had never been ordained a priest, that would have been an even greater tragedy. Since the defeater of death has permitted this, who is a mortal like me to question immortality? The Providence community should be proud that they cultivated and produced such an individual; and that individual was able to faithfully serve the Armenian Church and nation. No one can ever imagine what it means losing you. Without a doubt, Uncle Mal and Uncle Jay were both shining, outstanding examples of family and community service to Markar. I guess he did not ask me because I did not know how to make bread or run a business. He was so devoted to them that I always felt it was OK to run away from home. But a stroke just happened to come his way. I must confess ,I too have used some of your words to describe my own brother who just recently passed away. Walter also played the piano, his skill part inherited talent and part due to the incredible reach of those long hands. Thank you for your unwavering love and dedication to the Armenian Church and Nation.. They'd open him up and find an actual Rawlings baseball. But it didn't kill him. (All my love) Malamo pono (Take good care) Ke Akua HoomaikaI Oe (God Bless You) We love you Jim! The pages of your book will never be closed, just as the pages of Ninfa, Jaime, Mom and Dad's pages are not closed either. Uncle Ndumbe you were different, you were smart, outspoken and took no nonsense. When he was about 15, he was fishing in the bayou when he saw a man fall out of his boat. In addition, Der Vartan realized, without Providence, there would be no Der Vartan. It was in this city that Markar became an unger, a member of the Providence ARF Kristapor Gomideh. With much affection and respect. Difficult to accept, yet very true. Juan, brother, we will miss you, but we will always remember you with respect, admiration and love, always, always! As I read your eulogy I find many things in common with my brother's life. To put it simply, I was always there for Der Vartan when he needed me and he was always there for me when I needed him. And I think that's about the finest thing that can be said about anyone. You were a man of substance and like a father to everybody with a good heart and a source of blessing to many. He never let anyone or anything stand in the way of making things right. The quality of life is much more important than the quantity of life; and when it comes to the quality of life, we can all say: Der Vartan lived a full life and, literally, touched thousands of people. His funeral is a testament to the number of people he reached and touched. document.getElementById( "ak_js_1" ).setAttribute( "value", ( new Date() ).getTime() ); Guest contributions to the Armenian Weekly are informative articles or press releases written and submitted by members of the community. In the winter, he literally lived ON the frozen lake, ice fishing in his ice house. I was as close to him as if I had been his little brother instead of his sister. Unfortunately, only a few of us took the time to look into Markars heart and soul; and when we did, we discovered a heart of gold, a true treasure, a man of great faith and conviction, a man who was passionate about his Armenian identity, a man who sincerely loved Christ and his homeland of Armenia with all of his heart, soul, and mind, and a man who was always ready and willing to faithfully serve the Armenian Church and Nation. I am so thankful to Ben to have shared this eulogy which has been a source of inspiration to me who just lost my elder brother. And, indeed, Der Vartan was a treasure, treasured by all who knew him and loved him. His heart was as big as anyone I have ever known. And he left the hospital with something even more precious: a baby boy. This bad decision led him to a life of troubled times and great sadness. ]i' %cnDpn{HIX%6Rr9d 0sMGJfzi3cr~Z(*/ nf>$*m#i6. Trip to Hadrian's Wall, in Northumberland, May '05, Trip to southern Ireland, including Tipperary county and Kerry County. Believe in God. My condolence to you and your Family for your loss. It is like a dream to me and I cannot help but have a warm feeling when I think of you. I loved the way you turned the pages of your lives together. He might have started from humble beginnings but through hard work, he reached the top. That is why I find it very hard to write this tribute. Then we were the irrepressible Three Musketeers, led by fearless Walter, while P. had all the great ideas. Well miss the brother, the son, the boy who tested his limits, who brought home the trophies, who befriended and defended the neighborhood dogs and children. After that incident on the bike, when he turned into a black and blue, blood spurting monster before my very eyes and then miraculously survived with nothing more than a few scrapes and some coveted BandAids, I decided my brother was indestructible. You touched everyone in so many ways. But only those who love can tell the pain of parting without farewell. I asked him if he wanted to me to pray with him and he said yes. As the years progressed, we attended each others weddings; we studied in the Theological Seminary of Antelias; we attended each others ordination; and we were always together at our Ghevontiantz Clergy Conferences and NRA Conventions. Click here to contact the creator of this website. A rainy visit to the RHS garden Wisley in Surrey. He made everyone feel special and they always thought they were the best. Despite the fact that my mind is flooded with memories of him since our childhood, the pain of his death and the fear of the fact that I will not see him again made me lost for words to describe our happy moments and the gem he was to us. God bless you. var e=document.createElement('script');e.setAttribute('type','text/javascript');e.setAttribute('charset','UTF-8');e.setAttribute('src','https://static.typepad.com/.shared//js/pinmarklet.js?r='+Math.random()*99999999);document.body.appendChild(e); He is looking down upon us, he is watching over us, and he is praying for us. (Austin, Texas (USA)). The Cotentin Peninsula, La Hague, Bayeux, and St Lo. Live with faith, hope, and love. I was getting any of that. Thank you for sharing this has really help guide me to write for my loved one. We would listen to boxing or any sport and he would say, boy, they better be glad I'm not playing, and then he would let out a simple heeeehooooo! Peace to All. I still do not understand what is happening. So when it came my turn I informed my mother that I wouldn't be participating in this school-age ritual. He was a good friend to so many! All we could was hope and pray. I have never done this before and needed a guide or format as to how to do that. connolly brian history sweet messersmith remembering today wikipedia birthday vocals francis 1968 und lead rock adventures underated todays pay groups Through the love, support, and generosity of the Armenian community of St. Vartanantz Armenian Apostolic Church and Vartkes Markarian, the Godfather of his Ordination, Markar realized his dreams of becoming a priest. Rest in peace Brother, rest in peace. He led by example as he mentored his nephews and nieces and his own children in a way that anyone of them can say that he was an inspiration in their lives.My brother Juan was a business man who saw opportunity and made the most of it. Although I had many thoughts, I had a hard time putting them all together in a way to convey my love for him. . You were also there through all the countless times I was sick and my mother was unable to care for me by herself. It is impossible for me to recount the number of times our paths have crossed during our lifetime. We only saw Markar on the surface and unjustly judged him by his physical appearance and mannerisms. Melloydy EntertainmentNashville, TNFor booking inquiries:Email: melloydyent@yahoo.com, WHEN YOU HAVE YOUR HEALTHYOU HAVE EVERYTHING, EMBRACE YOURSELF AND FIND THE JOY WITHIN/ROCK WHAT YOU HAVE, AGING- A STATE OF MIND (THINKING YOURSELF YOUNG). Though you might be physically gone, your thought shall never depart from our mind neither will your place in our hearts be replaced. Markar was blessed to be born and raised in such a nationalistic Armenian stronghold. He now had the family he always wanted and so much deserved. fold reception turn poems faith sugartown publishing You, and You alone, know us individually in our depths. He confided in me and sought my advice. When they say people like to live on the edge, they were describing Walter. As his little sister, I basked in his popularitywhen I wasn't furious with him over some sibling spat. Where you are, you would want us to be happy. In addition, Markar was blessed with two grandchildren, Grace and Gabriella, and a great father-in-law, mother-in-law, and several sister-in-laws, brother-in-laws, nieces, and nephews. This served as an inspiration for me when I had to write a tribute to my beloved elder brother who recently passed away unexpectedly. I hope you don't mind that I use yours and change it a little to fit my need. Not being clear in my thinking or in sound mind you have given me a great example. I will be missing you brother. Walter was the tallest in the blue uniform of Monroe Brick. In addition, his pastoral responsibilities took him to Portland, Maine, Camp Haiastan, AYF Junior Seminar. B. had given birth to T. the day after Walter's surgery. Yes, Christ conquered the world; and through his glorious resurrection, he conquered darkness, evil, sin, and even death. My heart is so broken over my brother's passing. I feel like I have a guideline for my 49 year old brother that just also passed from Cancer. ******************************************************************************* FROM ATIM (COUSIN), Alison Stormworth wrote: When they go and leave you, do not make a saint out of memory. (Don't miss the photo of his hair!). And this was when it took his life away. I found this Eulogy to be a Perfect format as a guide to use and would like to say I am glad you posted it on line for others to see and use as a guideline. Uncle Mal and Uncle Jay instilled in Markar the love and importance of family and the duty and responsibility of community service. I was touched by how many people told me how he'd bragged about his sister the writerI just wish I'd given him more to be proud of sooner. [hj +g-C6p]bOB-%[h,_S;r$Y[& Juan cared enough to act - to follow through. I told you he had guts: believe me, it takes a lot of courage for a twelve-year-old boy to quote the Bard instead of Jimmy Page. Please enable JavaScript if you would like to comment on this blog. Walter was always lending a hand, to a stranger, to a friend, to his last love, P., who needed him as much as he needed her. I have so much to tell him and didn't know how to work it. Markar was always proud to be an Armenian, proud to be an AYFer, proud to be a Tashnagtsagan unger, and proud to be affiliated with the community of St. Vartanantz Armenian Apostolic Church. He was only 40 years old: a life cut short and God had to take him away from us. He always told me how proud he was that my children were also so involved in activities that define their lives. He wanted to become a priest in the mid-1980s and wrote to our Prelate, His Eminence Archbishop Mesrob Ashjian of Blessed Memory, and informed him of his calling. ***************************************************************************************. I wanted to write a heartfelt eulogy for him and after reading yours it totally inspired me to write a personal one. God knew that you did not deserve the pain that awaited you had you stayed on. I loved him as much as I love my own brother John. Even when we were growing up in a neat suburban neighborhood, we lived near enough to Bayou DeSiard that when he was old enough, Walter would grab his fishing pole and ride his bike to the bayou and spend an afternoon fishing for bream. With love and peace you have gone from us all but I know with that love and peace you will want us to share and keep amongst us. Ben you are a strong man. Faithfully serve the Lord and the Armenian Church and Nation with all your heart, soul, and mind. A ramble through pre-history, at Dunstable Downs in Bedfordshire. My prayers are with you and your family. Hope, which is irrepressible and unshaken, despite trials and tribulations, despite tragedy and hardship, even despite death. Well Bruddah, I am going to make it and I know you and the angels will be watching over me to get me there. It's how I deal. I think life, then, was just about perfect for Walter. Can I use some of yours? Rest in peace my beloved uncle till we meet to part no more. Amen., We are always saddened when death invades a family circle, and quite naturally so. March 27, 2012 at 02:39 PM in Next of Kin | Permalink, | | This really helped me to draft my uncle's eulogy. Adieu brother and friend. Markar would always say: If it was not for Uncle Mal and Uncle Jay, I would have not realized my dreams. Stratford, home of Shakespeare, captured in photos. I wish you and your loved ones my condolences. Once again, God anointed his head with oil and abundantly blessed his life, and his cup runneth over.. I was instrumental in having Der Vartans first set of vestments sown (the vestments he was ordained in and later wore during his Wake and Funeral Services) and I was there when he celebrated his first Badarak in Granite City and assisted him on the altar. We will remember you through the many people still left behind whose lives you touched so positively. Psalm 23 is one of the most famous, well-known, and most recited Psalms of the Old Testament. Thank you for sharing your wonderful eulogy. } else { A large mass, pressing against his heart. You were my source of inspiration and I wished you had more time to yield your fruits. Follow my example all the days of your lives and I will be with you forever and ever.. (We had to wear masks while we were in the room.) As I watched him kicking and screaming, I knew there was No. His mother, Rose, was then faced with the responsibility of raising Markar and his little sister Roxanne. In the Holy Gospel of John, Christ speaks to his disciples, and says: You have not chosen me; but I have chosen you And, indeed, I believe God had chosen Markar to be one of His good and faithful servants. Juan was not a cruel man and he wanted his children to understand that nothing can be gained from holding a grudge or leaving any issue that was very wrong unclear.